Cultivating Compassion

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”

~ His Holiness, the 14th Dali Lama

 

 

1. Compassion for Self
Our practice of compassion begins in wishing lovingkindness (metta meditation) for ourselves.

Take a few minutes each day to sit quietly, focus to the to heart space (hridayakasha) and mentally repeat:

“May I be safe. May I be happy. May I be healthy. May I be peaceful.”

In this way, we learn and experience to be compassionate with ourselves, resulting in less inner turmoil and more self acceptance.

2. Compassion for a Loved One
What we wish for ourselves, can we wish for others?

Bring to mind someone you have a fondness for, maybe a friend or a loved one and mentally repeat:

“May you be safe. May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you be peaceful.”

In this way, we cultivate compassion not as an insistence, but as an articulation of the heart.

3. Compassion for a Neutral Person
What we wish for ourselves and loved ones, can we wish for someone completely neutral to us?

The person we pass by on the street?

The person standing in front of us?

Bring to mind someone completely neutral, and wish loving kindness for them:

“May you be safe. May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you be peaceful.”

In this way, we take the time to recognize a stranger or someone neutral to us as someone significant and deserving of compassion.

4. Compassion for a Difficult Person
Wishing good things for someone we find difficult or someone we dislike can be challenging. All we need to do is try. Think of this person and wish well for them:

“May you be safe. May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you be peaceful.”

As we continue this practice of wishing safety, happiness, health and ease for difficult people in our life, we are one step closer to shifting feelings of hurt, anger and resentment towards feelings of ease, joy and forgiveness.

Be open to the possibility that maybe, just maybe, the dynamics of your relationship may change for the better.

5. Compassion for All Beings
To all beings, everywhere:

“May you be safe. May you be happy. May you be healthy. May you be peaceful.”

In cultivating compassion with ourselves and others, we can be more empathetic, kind, considerate and forgiving.

As a result, we focus more on positive qualities and attributes rather than the negative ones.

Over time, we may notice difficult relationships are resolved and experience less conflicts overall.

Lovingkindness practice helps us to feel more positive, accepting, kind and patient toward ourselves, so we can be more compassionate and loving toward others.

Hari Om Tat Sat

© Copyright 2013 – All Elements Yoga – Gail Seckrettar

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